Dad’s Napkin Quotes

I find this story about a man who made a series of 140 hand-drawn napkins for his three daughters very touching!

"I started doing the napkins while I was unemployed and making their lunches for school. I did 3 a day, one for each daughter. After many months I felt sort of depressed because, as funny as it sounds, it was the my main creative outlet, the only artwork I was doing at the time, and they were all being thrown away every day."

In the end one of his daughters saved them and surprised him with them on Father’s Day.

The story shows how present and connected fathers can be with their children (in a very creative and non-traditional way). Apparently, not only did his daughters look forward to reading them, but their friends at school looked did as well. I grew up without a father (he died when I was 6) so maybe I find it especially touching… but I think that most people can look at this guy as a great fatherly role model in a world where there aren’t enough of those.

Popularity, Profession, Wealth – Measuring a Person’s Worth


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Yesterday I was listening to the radio and a news report came on about a tragic car accident that killed five high-school students from the same school. The grief councilor came on the air to say "it is especially sad because these kids were so popular". What would happen if the students were unpopular or were part of a small group of tight-knit friends? Would that make a fatal car crash less sad? Of course not.

I thought the same as I read about the horrifying Robert Pickton case. Pickton, a BC pig farmer, confessed to killing over 49 women. Anti-poverty advocates are asking the media to stop focusing on the fact that the women were in the sex trade and refer to them as "women" instead of "prostitutes". Also, police were slow to respond to the missing women because of their status and neighborhood. Is one family’s tragedy less sad than another’s because of the deceased’s lifestyle? To me… it isn’t.

In a totally different context, I thought this as I saw the silly fight between Rosie O’Donnell and Donald Trump on YouTube. Trump says he is worth several-billion dollars while O’Donnell is "chubby". When he says he is worth several-billion dollars, it sounds like it means more to him than an accountant’s balance sheet calculation, it sounds like he is measuring his self-worth.

Once we start measuring our worth in terms of popularity, profession, wealth or appearance we are playing a losing game. What does popularity mean when you move to a new city? What does your profession mean if you are suddenly unable to work, after an injury or a downsizing? What does money mean if you get stranded on a desert island? All of these things can be lost or they lose meaning in different contexts.

The concept is simple – it is espoused by most religions and psychologists and the majority of us understand it on some level… but somehow reporters and news-makers keep trying to portray one person as more valuable than another based on external things. The problem is, propagating that view of one’s worth makes us forget that we are all valuable, regardless of popularity, profession or wealth.

My Seamless End-to-End Solution is Better than your Seamless End-to-End Solution

35018368v3_240x240_front_1 Jargon – annoying isn’t it? Frequently, the people who use it are ones who want to appear smarter than others through using words that they don’t understand. It is also used by people who don’t really understand what is going on, so they repeat words that others have used before instead of communicating their own point. This runs counter to the whole point of communication – it should be inclusive, not made for only a specific group to understand. After all, communication should seek to elucidate, not complicate.

Excess Voice, a copy writing newsletter I subscribe to, created this hilarious Business Jargon Copy Contest where they asked readers to submit their funniest obfuscating jargon and put the winners on mugs. Here are some of the funniest entries, enjoy:

Shift my paradigm before I’ve had my morning coffee and I’ll core your competencies.

Our alliance stands alone in demonstrating the extensivity of integrated partnerships with other collaboratives.

You can take your bleeping paradigm to the next level and drop-kick it from 30,000 feet, pal.

We need consensus on the agenda ASAP — and I’m talking COB — or we’re DOA. Got that?

We appear to have begun an upstream shift while simultaneously experiencing a paddle deficiency.

Next time you are sitting in a meeting and hearing stuff like this, hopefully it will make you smile… and don’t worry if you don’t understand… the person using it might not understand what he is saying either.

Fewf! That Celebrity Beauty is a Fake!

Every woman I have ever met, no matter what she looked like, has admitted that the celebrity version of beautiful has hit her self esteem. Looking at magazines, TV and movies, every woman has had that nagging feeling that she can never be beautiful enough for her boyfriend/husband/future partner. But, where would those celebrities be without their:

  • hours of free time to spend at the gym
  • personal trainers
  • make up artists
  • chefs who make the healthy food delicious
  • make-up artists
  • hair stylists
  • plastic surgeons
  • lighting technicians
  • maids so they don’t have to be stressed out by cleaning

And as if that was not enough…

  • photoshop airbrush tools hiding any lasting imperfections

This video is heartening, because it shows that even celebrities, with all of the advantages in the world, can look like the rest of us some days. With all of their enhancements in, celebrities are more like beauty caricatures, akin to cartoons with all of the paint and photoshop, than real people. If these celebrities, who were chosen for their roles in part for their beauty cannot reach their own standards naturally, how are the rest of us supposed to live up to them? Fewf! for the rest of us.

Personal Development Lessons from Airplanes


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I read today that airplanes do not stay on track for their entire flight. Instead they spend most of their time completely off track, and rely on their instruments to give them constant feedback as to their position in the sky. The pilots then adjust accordingly… but to be perfect about following the path is impossible.

This is a good analogy to life and the continual striving from being where you are right now, to being where you want to be. The feedback instruments are advice from friends and family, successes and failures, your insights and your instincts.

I was having a drink with a man the other night and we decided that we wanted to do away with the regular small talk and ask each other something original. I decided on "do you have a pet?" (yes, it doesn’t sound that cool written down, but it is hard to be cool in these situations). It turned out that his profession was rescuing animals from precarious situations across the city of Toronto – usually cats and dogs but sometimes tropicals or lost indigenous Canadian creatures. Why did I choose to ask this man about pets? Because this type of premonition has happened to me before, I think that it has something to do with meeting thousands of people in my life, and now I can see patterns.

So, that instinctual feedback is a good thing. I also like the premise that planes approximate a perfect course, rather than achieving it. I remember sitting through Physics class in my Undergrad, measuring ground speed, angles and other attributes associated with flight for exams and papers while feeling some doubt. Of course it is unrealistic to think that messy life , even in the hands of professionals, can be as perfect as a mathematical equation. My calculations were only producing approximations.

When it comes to personal development and occasionally going off track, that too is a good learning from airplanes. Because despite the messiness… most planes actually safely reach their destinations. So – it is true that the fulfillment of a vision frequently isn’t as perfect as you want it to be, and the path is messy, but getting to that vision is the point of the whole thing.

Thanks to Stephen and Steven for these ideas.

Guy Kawasaki’s $1.39 CPM and the Online Advertising Industry

This week I read this article on author Guy Kawasaki getting a CPM of $1.39 compared to the CPM of $100 commanded by sites such as Forbes.com or BusinessWeek.com. It gets me thinking that even though more and more people are spending more and more time on the web, advertisers are not taking advantage of the online opportunity.

Guy Kawasaki, a famous author and consultant is in the top 50 of bloggers on the Internet according to Technocrati, 21,000 people receive RSS feeds via Feedburner and 1,457 receive emails via FeedBlitz. The fact that this blog of all blogs is not earning more is shocking.

This paired with the recent Marketing Sherpa report that shows Direct Mail (DM) leading the pack as far as Marketing spend is concerned upsets me. Direct Mail? You mean those envelopes people receive and throw them away without opening them? Isn’t this killing trees for no reason? DM is ahead of broadcast, and spending on it is many times higher than any kind of Online marketing.

My conclusion from this is that Online Marketing is still in its infancy, whereas mediums like Direct Mail have had centuries to evolve and grow. With the ability to measure online results so precisely, you would think that more marketers would go this route instead of the traditional DM channel. Perhaps since DM is safe and predictable, and there are many well-seasoned Marketing Managers who understand it, decision-makers don’t see the need for change.

But – I think there is definitely some room to grow and innovate within Marketing. Still relying on DM is like still programming mainframe applications. Of course there are subject-matter experts, but that is no reason to keep the whole industry in the dark ages. Eventually as more advertisers see the benefits of online and as the online advertising industry continues to innovate, we will see more online ads… and less junk mail at our doorsteps. 

Calvin & Hobbes Snowmen Art Criticism

Calvin_1 I found this Tribute to Calvin and Hobbes Snowman Art . Bill Watterson, who created the comic strip, was somewhat of an artistic idealist, forcing newspapers to publish in his format and refusing to let his cartoons be merchandised. Those ubiquitous stickers on the back of trucks with Calvin urinating on a company logo were actually unauthorized.

Watterson created the snowmen as a criticism of the pretentious art-world. Was he including himself in that category? Since the last strip ran in 1995, Watterson has taken up painting and drawing landscapes in the woods. Me and other fans spanning generations sure wish he would come back out here to draw more snowmen.

My Reptilian Brain Buys my Starbucks Lattes

Rapaille Usually, after watching a few hours of TV, most people immediately forget it – using their mind-space for more important endeavors. But sometimes, there is that one show that just sticks with you and keeps coming up in different contexts. For me, that show was an interview with Clotaire Rapaille on Frontline a few years back. This French man turns traditional Marketing Research on its head, saying that you can’t ask people what they think, since most people have no idea why they make certain decision (eg. they don’t know why they want to buy a Hummer).

Rapaille is a Child Psychiatrist turned Marketer, and he uses psychoanalytic techniques to analyze the codes associated with certain products. He believes that it is something that he calls the "Reptilian Brain" that makes decisions on products, rather than logic.

When we [are] born, we have the reptilian brain. The reptilian brain is there already. It’s part of survival; it’s breathing, eating, going to the bathroom.

He says that when it comes to the Hummer decision for example, traditional market researchers look for logic, which has nothing to do with the decision:

Why do you need a Hummer to go shopping? "Well, you see, because in case there is a snowstorm." No. Why [do] you buy four wheel drive? "Well, you know, in case I need to go off-road." Well, you live in Manhattan; why do you need four wheel drive in Manhattan? "Well, you know, sometime[s] I go out, and I go — " You don’t need to be a rocket scientist to understand that this is disconnected. This is nothing to do with what the real reason is for people to do what they do. So there are many limits in traditional market research.

He says instead, it is the reptilian brain at work:

How can I decode this kind of behavior which is not a word? My theory is very simple: The reptilian always wins. I don’t care what you’re going to tell me intellectually. I don’t care. Give me the reptilian. Why? Because the reptilian always wins.

Rapaille’s techniques are very unusual. He gets his subjects to lie on the floor and brings them back to their first memories of their interaction with different products in order to understand the true essence of the product. He then "cracks the code" about what drives the  buying decision and consults Marketers to emphasize those aspects of the products in ad appeals and design. He has consulted to companies such as P&G and Chrysler on this. Here are his conclusions after analysis on the Jeep Wrangler:

When I worked with Chrysler, for example, we discovered that Jeeps should not have square headlights. That’s a very practical thing: no square headlights. Why? I don’t want to go into anything secret, but let’s suppose the code for a Jeep is an animal like a horse. You don’t see a horse with square eyes. The Jeep people didn’t say that; they said, "Yes, I want round headlights, like a face." And we use the face of the Jeep with the grille as a logo for Jeep. So when I discovered that, that was like a very reptilian dimension. And since then, no Jeep Wranglers have square headlights.

Can you see why he is hard to forget? He has recently published a book called The Culture Code.

All quotes are from Frontline – The Persuaders. Pic is from the New York Times.

Free Hugs

I find this story about Juan Mann from Sydney, Australia who decided to dedicate one day a week of his life to giving free hugs to strangers inspirational for a few reasons. One is that it is a story a man being affectionate to strangers where it has nothing to do with unwanted sexual attention or child molestation (although if it does end up getting that angle I’ll scream!) Two is that he spent his own free time on brightening people’s day, in a very modest way (he simply holds up a sign that says "free hugs").

Another reason I find it inspirational is that the idea spread around the world: Russia, China, Japan, Portugal, South America and all over the US. They got a lot of media attention, including a spot on Good Morning America and Oprah. You can see a site that they built here: www.freehugscampaign.org. It is an example of someone other than a multinational making an impact on a world scale. Doesn’t that have implications for the rest of us? 

Rate of Development’s Inverse Relationship with Years on Earth

Last night I went to my sister’s place for Sunday dinner and listened to my 5-year-old nephew read to me. With every word that tumbled out of his mouth, I was amazed. How was this little guy, who was a drooling baby lying on my chest while I was reading just a few years back… now is reading to me?

I thought about how much I have developed in the past 5 years. In the same time that he has learned to crawl, walk, read, write, do Sudoku puzzles, play video games, play hockey, negotiate with his older brother and sister, make everyone laugh with perfectly timed jokes… what have I done? Yes, I have some accomplishments academically, professionally and personally but they are nothing compared to my little nephew’s achievements – which are not unusual for a five-year old.

Someone told me that there is an inverse relationship between aging and developing. So, if from 0-1, you grow at a 1/1 rate, from  29-30 you grow at a 1/30 rate and at 98-99 you grow at a 1/99 rate (or at 1% of where you were at 0-1). Even though a Developmental Psychologist would likely contest the science behind this – the main idea that growing and developing are easier when you are younger makes sense to me. I think it is possible to cheat the system through concerted effort… but, this idea does inspire me to do act now on the things that are important to me, since later they will surely be more difficult.