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S-P-A – Three Letters Better than B-A-R

Img_05691 My sister and I went to a spa called the Pillar and Post in Niagara-on-the-Lake to celebrate New Years. Normally for this holiday I go out to an overpriced bar, dress in something tight with matching uncomfortable shoes, get drunk then feel like shit the next day. This time we hung out for 24 hours in soft white robes, were massaged by two handsome men and felt replenished and revived the next day.

We have been stressed lately – she works as a school psychologist up in Barrie and has three kids ages 5,7 and 9. I am a Marketing Manager in Toronto with my own worries – such as a break-up from a two-year relationship and a recent job-change. My sister showed up at my place late, and we argued about whether or not we should pick up tea and coffee and we argued about directions. But somehow, we got to the spa on time for our first massage appointment and even got to check in to our rooms first.

We went to the spa past the pool, changed into our clean, white robes and went into a kind of lounge where about ten other people were sitting and sipping tea in their robes as well. They were all lolling around on the comfortable pillow-filled couches as if it was their own bedrooms. It was a bit disconcerting to know that they were all naked under the robes (especially since seeing some of them naked would not be a pretty sight) but we tried not to think of it.

My masseuse was a handsome, red-haired ex-welder. Being "good with his hands" he preferred to use his skill on the human body rather than on metal parts. I tugged on my robe and said fleetingly "okay – I guess I will take this off then" with a laugh and he said "it’s not like that!" in a bit of a panicked way. He walked out the door and instructed me to take off the robe and cover myself with a blanket. I’ve never had a massage like that before – but I felt so wonderful after that it was difficult for me to walk. My friend says that having a massage therapeutic, and is as healthy as eating a piece of broccoli (and much more pleasurable).

Afterwards, my sister and I went to the room and caught up on each other’s lives for a few hours until our manicures. I’ve never had a manicure before in my life since it seemed like a high-maintenance-woman thing to do – but hey – we were in the spa so why not try. The two manicurists seemed like best friends, and my sister and I are as well. All four of us talked, shared crazy stories from our lives laughed a lot and voila… an hour and a half later my sister and I had gorgeous French-Manicured nails .

For dinner we got room-service so we could continue being in our robes, ate it by the fireplace in our room and ordered a movie. By 10:00 pm I looked over at my sister and she was sleeping with her glasses clutched in her hand. The next morning she said that she had never fallen asleep in a movie before – so she was just that incredibly relaxed! Neither of us really cares about the midnight-counting down thing – so we were fine with both being asleep at midnight.

The next day we went to the outdoor hot springs and I did some laps in the pool until it was time to go. We both had small scratches on our French Manicures by the time we left – but who wants perfection. We were relaxed, happy and ready to take on all of the stress that was surely soon coming back at us upon our return home. That night I went to The Drake with a friend and saw all of the hung-over New Years day people scuttling around with their heads turned down denoting that they feel like shit – I remember so many of those for me. Right now it feels much better to de-stress and strengthen instead.

My 6 Best Books from 2006 – Speed Reviews

I am an avid reader. In fact, I have read almost 50 books this year. But life is short and workdays are long so I have to be choosy about what to include in my diet of books and I like to read widely with a balanced diet of different genres.

Here is a list of best books with their categories that I read this year. The synopses of the books are available through the links, so I have simply added my subjective opinions in the form of pros and cons. I hope that you will enjoy these to add to your balanced diet in 2007.

The Long Tail
Author: Chris Anderson
Category: Business 
Pro: Helped me see niche markets everywhere and reinvigorated my enthusiasm for our modern, connected world 
Con: It got repetitive at times and the idea is too new to have much credible economic research behind it 

Getting to Yes
Author: Roger Fisher, William L. Ury, Bruce Patton
Category: How To
Pro: Made me argue against the truth behind my opponent’s argument, instead of simply fighting over their official position 
Con: There is not much wrong with this book – it delivered what it promised 

Shambhala: Sacred Path of the Warrior
Author: Chogyam Trungpa
Category: Spirituality
Pro: Rinpoche a Tibetan who went to Oxford University – he has huge credibility and has a sense of humor as well 
Con: The title and cover art make it look like it is a cult handbook and the prose is sometimes awkwardly written 

Female Chauvinist Pigs
Author: Ariel Levy 
Category: Women’s Studies
Pro: A very interesting take on women in a cultural phenomena written in a very palatable form
Con: It takes some things that are not important too seriously does not lie on a solid foundation of research 

Self Esteem
Author: Matthew McKay, Patrick Fanning   
Category: Personal Development 
Pro: The exercises are straightforward and it helped me work through some personal blocks in a painless way   
Con: It has a chapter on hypnotism which seems out of place

Hey Nostradamus!
Author: Douglas Coupland
Category: Fiction
Pro: Very creative, thoughtful and full of surprises
Con: Sometimes the light treatment of such a serious subject made me feel uneasy