Comments on: Back from Paris!

By: Stefanie

Stefanie — Sat, 22 Mar 2008 01:53:29 +0000

Rumer – I think that obsessed is an exaggeration – but I would say that it is something that concerns me. I, like all beings, am flawed… and I think good writing is the kind that confesses and exposes those flaws at times. When I read things by people about issues I have overcome (such as a certain kind of relationship) I can remember and sympathize). When I read about something that I have not encountered in my own life (such as drug addiction) it helps me understand others and build compassion for their issues.

If you don’t have these flaws – congratulations – you get a balloon! For me, I think it is okay to publicly discuss this stuff – in fact I have gotten a lot of positive feedback from women and men about this story.

The Paris trip was about my new life as well – but letting go of the old one is the first step to moving on to the new one. It does give me an idea for the next story – thanks .

By: Rumer

Rumer — Fri, 21 Mar 2008 23:39:12 +0000

Hmm… You seem awfully obsessed with the superficial (clothing, weight, hairstyle) and how others perceive you. Or am I reading too much in between the lines?

You do realize that there is no “in here” and “out there”? That it doesn’t really matter what “they” think about you, because “they” aren’t really thinking about you, except for what you think about them.

And while the part about the boyfriend cheating on you was made up, was the part where you were running away from the sadness in your life made up as well? Wouldn’t it be better if instead you went to Paris to run toward a new phase in your life?

Just a thought.

By: Stefanie

Stefanie — Thu, 20 Mar 2008 17:07:17 +0000

Um, you didn’t read the rest of the post, where I explain that it was fiction:

“he didn’t cheat on me, we just broke up”

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Thu, 20 Mar 2008 17:02:23 +0000

“I caught him cheating on me with his ex-wife.”

Sucker. You attracted it.

By: Stefanie

Stefanie — Mon, 10 Mar 2008 17:18:49 +0000

Epicura, that is interesting. I guess the part of me dealing with gender discrimination in my early career and realizing the best way to use my analytical and creative talents would be starting my own business wouldn’t make the cut though hey? Because gender discrimination in non-traditional fields apparently doesn’t exist anymore according to Pinker.

By: Epicuria

Epicuria — Mon, 10 Mar 2008 08:24:13 +0000

This little vignette seems to be taken right out of Susan Pinker’s book…

By: Stefanie

Stefanie — Sat, 08 Mar 2008 19:15:47 +0000

Thanks to all! Ashish – you are right – in the face of problems you can choose to be a seeker. Though – sometimes it isn’t exactly easy to make that choice .

Marty – it is true – sometimes tenderness from others can come from the most unexpected places.

By: Marty Coleman

Marty Coleman — Sat, 08 Mar 2008 18:38:43 +0000

Fantastic story about how one finds joy in the purity of beauty and the tenderness of others.

By: ashish shukla

ashish shukla — Sat, 08 Mar 2008 09:10:21 +0000

Hey Stef,

Great Post. I really liked the way you linked ‘imperfection and beauty’ of statue with your life. I like reading a bit ‘intellectual’ posts so really enjoyed this of yours.

Will bookmark ya. Regarding personal life, there should be some problems to enjoy good things properly.

Njoy

By: T.

T. — Sat, 08 Mar 2008 03:43:23 +0000

That’s great Stef – glad you had a good time.