Live Your Life Be Free!

Lots of people… smart people, logical people, insightful people, worldly people that I know, still believe in this ‘the one’ stuff. As in… "if only I could meet ‘the one’" or when breaking up with someone, saying "I guess he wasn’t ‘the one’". But, isn’t this "the one" stuff loaded? That means that the ONLY way that you can experience love is with "the one" and all of the other relationships that you have had in your life amount to nothing?

Any psychologist worth their salt will tell you that there is no "the one". There are actually many people that you will connect with for various reasons. Maybe that number is low, as in 0.01% for a single intellectual female in Toronto for example , but there is still more than one. We are talking about 6 billion people on this planet! Of course, this isn’t exactly a romantic notion, but it is better to live in the truth than to be comforted by a lie.

Having "the one" in your life only downgrades all of the other relationships. Most people have a variety of romantic relationships – I’ve had one for five years, one for three years and one for two. They all ended for good reasons, but that doesn’t mean that I only have bad memories with them or that the time with them was a waste… since none of them were not "the one".

This ongoing saga of adult singles searching for "the one" does not help, since it is too black-and-white. It is an all or nothing situation, where you can have all of the love possible or none at all. Why limit ourselves? In today’s world we can use all the love that we can get .